When you walk down the street you may see someone and think, wow they have it good! Or when you are scrolling through Facebook, Snapchat, or Instagram and everyone looks like their life is perfect, you might think you are missing out on something. On the outside it may look that way, but everyone struggles with something throughout their life. Unless you are good friends or a relative with this person, you may not know they are struggling and you may be quick to judge them or envy their life.
If you were to break up your life into categories most people can relate to, these areas might be: social (family & friends), financial, career, spiritual, leisure/ hobbies, and health.
Of the people I have met over the years, most usually do well in a couple of areas. For some it’s financial and career, for others it’s social/family and spirituality. Still, from my experience there are always one or two areas in a person’s life that they struggle with for one reason or another.
I am no exception to this rule. In many aspects of my life, I have been very blessed. I have traveled to several countries, have done well financially, am educated, am in good health, and have built a solid set of job skills. But one area of my life that I have struggled with is social/family. I am forty, single (never married), and have no children; two things that I desire deeply. You might say, you just pick a person and get married, but for me it’s not that easy. I have dated men and have come close to getting married, but I never felt the person I was dating could be someone I could live with for the rest of my life. Regarding children, sometimes I wish I hadn’t been so careful with my birth control methods when I was in my 20’s and 30’s. On a positive note, I’ve learned and grown from every relationship I’ve had, noticed what I could have done differently, and have had some great experiences. You might ask, why am I sharing this with you? I want you to know that you are not alone. We know you are struggling with something whether you share it with people or not.
Here are a few true examples of people who are very blessed in some areas of their lives but struggle in other areas..
A young, petite, beautiful 20-something woman with a great job, boyfriend, and supportive family struggles with an illness that create severe pain in her pelvic region. This makes it difficult to have intimate relations with her significant other and could possibly create complications to bare children. Unless you know her, you’d never know her struggle.
A funny, intelligent, friendly, married 40-something white middle-class man secretly struggled with alcoholism for five plus years. One day he loses his job of five years after arriving to work with alcohol in his system. If you don’t know him, you may not know his struggle.
A friendly, healthy, goofy, middle-class retired 50-something Mexican man travels, hikes, and enjoys life on the weekends. During the week, however, he lives with his sister and elderly mother so he can assist his sister as she goes through chemo and radiation for stage four breast cancer. If you only see him on the weekends, you’d think his life is great.
An officer in the military moves up in the ranks, has two wonderful children, a loving mother, and some great childhood friends. In his mid-twenties, the military officer’s step-father killed his son (the officer’s half-brother) and then the step-father killed himself. The officer’s mother still lives in the house where her husband and son died. If you work with him, you probably see a very different side of him.
Like the people in these examples, each of the areas we struggle with will generally influence our daily lives. So, is there anything that can be done? I believe yes! This is where hypnosis comes in. For me, hypnosis has helped me stop old patterns and change deep-seated beliefs that were leading me to date the wrong person repeatedly. Although I haven’t met the “one” yet, (I can only control me) I have stopped dating the wrong kind of people . My beliefs are more positive and I now feel more open and ready to meet a compatible partner.
How could hypnosis help the other individuals I spoke about?
A young, petite, beautiful 20-something woman with a severe pain in her vaginal region. Hypnosis could be used for relaxation and pain management.
A funny, intelligent, friendly, married 40-something white middle-class man secretly struggles with alcoholism for five plus years. Hypnosis could be used to stop addictive behaviors.
A friendly, healthy, goofy, middle-class retired 50-something …assist his sister as she goes through chemo and radiation for stage 4 breast cancer. Hypnosis can be used to reduce stress, release emotions, and visualize a positive future.
An officer in the military moves up in the ranks, has two great children, a loving mother, and some great childhood friends… step father killed his… Hypnosis can be used to neutralize memories and help people who have experienced traumas so they do not have the same emotional charge.
You too may have hidden beliefs, trauma, low self-worth, or buried emotions in your subconscious mind that are preventing you from moving forward in a positive way. Hypnosis can help you look at things in a different way, neutralize negative memories, or help you visualize a brighter future. The great thing about hypnosis is that you don’t have to relive the experience to get over it; you can view the experience as an observer and get past it.
What do you struggle with? Would you like some assistance? If you’ve tried everything else, and it hasn’t worked, you might want to give hypnosis a try.